Motivation / Inspiration Earlier this week I watched a webinar about how to make money with digital products/services. Ebooks, online instructional videos, challenges, and online communities were the four options discussed. The presenter said that ebooks can b the most profitable endeavour. The goal is to write something once and sell it forever. This webinar has inspired me to create an ebook or possibly more than one. I think this is something I can accomplish fairly quickly. I have most of the written material already done in my many lesson sheets. I’m going to write an ebook with the working title of, ‘Covid Canines > Fun Games and Exercises To Homeschool Your Dog’. It’s not intended to b an in-depth training manual covering learning theory and the like, but rather, a more light hearted, easy to follow set of training games for people to play/teach their dogs during pandemic lockdown. The pandemic lockdown has ben extended once again. The ‘stay h
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Held Hostage By Fear Is there more to fear than just its need to exist? At the end of the day what does fear want from us? Therapy teaches us that fear can be healthy most of the time. It warns us of danger, reminds us of our limits, and can protect us from carelessness. We need to determine healthy fear from unhealthy fear, so that we can ‘trust’ healthy fear. What is healthy fear? Healthy fear is triggered by a real threat of danger and disappears when that threat/danger is no longer present . What is unhealthy fear? Unhealthy fear is triggered by a perceived or imagined danger, which oftentimes is not dangerous at all. It’s the worry or anticipation of a threat that “might” be present. Healthy fear subsides after serving its’ purpose (warning and/or protecting us from danger), while unhealthy fear persists to haunt us. The question is, when fear holds us hostage, how do we make it let go? Confidence Confidence is faith in ones
Birthdays I was watching a tv show in which one of the scenes was a little girls birthday party. It triggered the memory of how birthdays were never “celebrated” in my family. I remember seeing a photograph of a birthday party in England. I would have been about 4yrs of age. I have no memory of the party …. just the photo. I have almost no memory of my life in England. There are no other photographs showing birthday celebrations in my childhood. I don’t remember every being thrown a party. Of course, who would come? I didn’t have any friends. Kids at school came from wealthy homes so my mom would have deemed our home unsuitable for guests and we certainly wouldn’t have been able to afford a catered event somewhere. She quite often said of other people, “they probably have beautiful homes”. So I can understand why no parties were held at our home. But why did that mean that birthdays were not celebrated? Why was everything such an inconve
Affection/Connection I never saw my parents be affectionate with one another. They were not what one would categorize as a romantic couple. As a child you sense something is wrong - you feel the distance and you learn to accept that distance as normal. That emotional disconnection is normal. Your gut tells you this is wrong, that you want/need connection, but your observations tell you connection is risky and disconnection is safe. Children mirror what the adults in their lives show them. In a home where there is no true empathy, where emotions are dismissed, a child learns that emotions are risky. Emotion, at best, invites belittling, criticism, dismissal/rejection. At worst, they provoke anger and threat of imminent danger. To be an emotional person in a world where those emotions need to be hidden, creates an awful internal conflict. In dog training we call it ‘competing’ or ‘conflicting’ drives. For example, a dog who is social